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Question 28: I wanted to thank you for giving
me the time of day. I am not use to what you say in the e-mails you
send. You said you are prod of me and the way I am handling my TS.
I on the other hand feel like my family is attacking me....I know
my parents would not attend [a presentation]....But I would like to.
Under suspicion by my instructors, because the most I cold explain
about TS in the 5 sec I got between classes is that it is a 'neurological
condition'. Family friend don't want to get in the middle of the family
tension, or just side with parents. My friends are having a hard time
with my being out about TS, Mostly because most of my friends them
selves are disinhibited. We joke about safety in numbers. They don¹t
want to be out. And want to ignore it and go on. They can't relate
to my want for understanding and the freedom of being out. I have
no support in the USA. I have Mailing list. And you say I am doing
well. I don't want to know what bad is........
................Oh and I am doing
better. My dad wants me to be re-diagnosed. Maybe he will believe
it when he hears it from the mouth of an expert. R.D., CA, USA.
Good
morning R.:
I want
to apologize for taking so long to respond to your emails -- the past
few weeks have been enormously busy for me as I finished my doctorate
and moved myself and "Life's A Twitch!" to a new address.
My head is only beginning to surface now so that I can finally give
you the reply you deserve.........
Perhaps
your parents would not yet attend a presentation. But they may surprise
you. Or they may surprise you in the future. Always remember that whether
they want to learn more or not is THEIR issue. Don't ever make it yours
by closing the door on trying to help them learn. That is the day you
become partly at fault for your situation too. Being strong and believing
in others when you feel that you don't have much support from family
and friends is a hard road to walk. I know. But the fact that you are
doing it anyway, the fact that you are interested in learning more,
and the fact that you are modeling for friends the power of standing
up proud in who you are regardless of the consequences is what makes
you a person worthy of a lot of respect. It's why I'm proud of you.
Maybe things aren't that good on the outside, and things at this point
don't feel that good on the inside. But who you have chosen to be will
MAKE you a person who is 'doing well' and who WILL do well in life.
Who you choose to be inside will always be more important than what
is happening around you R.....................................................
........................I'm
very glad to hear that you are doing better R. There will of course
always be ups and downs, but I have faith that if you continue to hold
true to yourself life will, all in all, continue to get better. Congratulations
with your dad -- he is coming around because of YOUR actions. Time to
be proud of YOURSELF, R.
If you
think your dad, school or school board might be interested in hearing
a presentation by all means refer them to my site or email address and
I will do my best to accommodate them R!
cheers,
and have a great start to the school year!
Dr. Dunc.
